Love is not the same as Sex. And there are different kinds of love. Platonic love like a best friend or a collegue. Familial love like a parent, guardian, or...creator, in your case...And of course, romantic love, like with you and Xara. Sex is...well...sex. Just something you do purely because of pleasure. For some, it's a stress relief. A form of entertainment. You can add sex to love, just as much as you can remove love from sex. That make any sense?